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Self Assessments
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Recommended Books

Couple Counselling / Relationships
Domestic Violence
Elder Care
Grief / Anticipatory Grief
Parenting / Family Management
Personal Development
Separation / Divorce
Stress / Anxiety / Emotional


Choices and Consequences
(What to do When a Teenager uses Alcohol / Drugs)
by Dick Schaefer

Don’t Leave it to Chance
(A Guide for Families of Problem Gamblers)
by Federman, Drebing and Kreb

Drinkwise: How to Quit Drinking or Cut Down
by Martha Sanchez-Craig

It will Never Happen to Me
(Children of Alcoholics – as youngsters, adolescents, adults)
by Claudia Black


Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager:
7 Steps to Re-establish authority and Reclaim Love
by Scott Sells, Savannah Family Institute

Reviving Ophelia
by Mary Pipher, Ph.D.

Surviving Your Adolescents
by Thomas Phelan

Yes, Your Teen Is Crazy
by Michael Bradly

Couple Counselling / Relationships

After the Affair
by Janis Abrahms Spring

Difficult Conversations
by Stone, Patten and Heen

Divorce Busting
by Michelle Weiner Davis

Fighting for Your Marriage
by Howard Markman, Scott Stanley and Susan Blumberg

Getting the Love You Want
by Harville Hendrix

Messages – The Communications Skills Book
by Matthew McKay, Martha Davis and Patrick Fanning

Private Lies
by Frank Pittman

Reconcilable Differences
by Andrew Christensen and Neil S. Jacobson

Relationship Rescue
by Phil McGraw

Stop Blaming, Start Loving
by Bill and Pat O’Hanlon

Take Back Your Marriage
by William J. Doherty

The Dance of Anger
by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.

The Dance of Deception
by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.

The Dance of Intimacy
by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D.

The Divorce Remedy
by Michele Weiner-Davis

The Relationship Cure
by John G. Gottman, Ph.D.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
by John Gottman, Ph.D.

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay
by Mira Kirshenbau

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
by John Gottman, Ph.D.

Women Who Love Too Much
by Robin Norwood

You Just Don’t Understand
by Deborah Tannen

Domestic Violence

“No More!” Women Speak Out Against Violence
editted by Eileen Morrow and Susan Wakeling

The Verbally Abusive Relationship:
How to Recognize It and How to Respond
by Patricia Evans

Healing the Trauma of Abuse:
A Woman’s Workbook
by Mary Ellen copeland and Maxine Harrise

Trust After Trauma:
A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them
by Aphrodite Matsakis

The Emotionally Abused Woman
by Beverley Engel

The Courage to Heal
by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

Elder Care

36-Hour Day
by Mace and Robbins

Grief / Anticipatory Grief

How to Go On Living When Someone You Loves Dies
by Theresa Rando

Beyond Grief
by Carol Staudacher

Facing Death and Finding Hope
by Christine Longaker

Living When a Loved One has Died
by Earl Grollman

Final Gifts:
Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs and Communications of the Dying
by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley

Parenting / Family Management

Honey I Wrecked the Kids:
When Yelling, Screaming, Threats, Bribes, Time-outs, Sticker Charts and Removing Privileges All Don’t Work
by Alyson Schafer

Who’s in Charge?:
A Guide to Family Management
by Maggie Mamen

1 – 2 – 3 Magic
by Thomas Phelan

Kids are Worth It
by Barbara Coloroso

Parenting Through Crisis
by Barbara Coloroso

Secret of Parenting
by Anthony E. Wolf

Personal Development

The Monk Who Sold his Ferrari:
A Spiritual Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams and Reaching Your Destiny
by Robin Sharma

What About the Big Stuff:
Finding Strength and Moving Forward When the Stakes are High
by Richard Carlson

Self Matters:
Creating Your Life from the Outside Out
by Dr. Phil McGraw

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People:
Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
by Stephen R. Covey

The Artist’s Way:
A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity
by Julia Cameron

Toxic Parents
by Susan Forward

Separation / Divorce

Dumped!: A Survival Guide for the Woman Who’s Been Left Behindby the Man She Loved
by Sally Warren

Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
by Bruce Fisher

“Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce?”
by Anthony E. Wolf

Dinosaurs Divorce
by Brown/Brown

Healthy Divorce
by Graig Everett and Sandra Volgy Everett

Divorce Book for Parents
by Vicky Lansky

Coming Apart:
Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours
by Daphne Rose Kingma

Good Divorce
by Constance Ahrons

Surviving the Breakup
by Judith Wallerstein & Joan B. Kelly

Stress / Anxiety / Emotional

Mind over Mood
by Greenberger and Padesky

The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Book
by Davis et al.

The Stranger in the Mirror:
Dissociation – The Hidden Epidemic
by Marlene Steinberg and Maxine Schnall

Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder
by Marsha M. Linehar

Solutions Issue
by Antony and Swinson

Peace from Nervous Suffering
by Claire Weekes

Hope and Help for Your Nerves
by Claire Weekes

Codependent No More
by Melodie Beattie

Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway
by Susan Jaffers, Ph.D.



Alcoholsim: The Disease of Denial
Solutions Issue 11

Gambling: The Secret Addiction
Solutions Issue 20


Lifestyle Changes: Retirement
Solutions Issue 36

Is Your Aging Parent Managing?
Solutions Issue 42

Downsizing a Lifetime of Memories
Solutions Issue 54

Children and Adolescents

Choosing Child Care Solutions
Solutions Issue 13

Streetproofing Your Child
Solutions Issue 22

Child and Adolescent Grief
Solutions Issue 23

Helping your Child Look Forward to School

Solutions Issue 24

Resiliancy: Preparing your Children for their Future as Adults
Solutions Issue 29

Kids and the Web
Solutions Issue 30

Ten Steps to Enjoying your Teenager
Solutions Issue 31

Working Parents: Finding time for children
Solutions Issue 38

Your Kids and Drugs
Solutions Issue 41

Helping Youth with that Next Career Step
Solutions Issue 52

Positive Ties: Develop Youth Resilience During Challenging Times
Solutions Issue 58


Stress-free Family Vacations

Solutions Issue 5

Surviving and Enjoying the Holiday Season

Solutions Issue 15

The Sandwhich Generation: Caught in the Middle
Solutions Issue 18

Parenting through Divorce and Separation
Solutions Issue 21

Domestic Violence and the Workplace
Solutions Issue 26

Rekindling Passion in Long-Term Relationships
Solutions Issue 44


Catching your ZZZZs?
Solutions Issue 6

Helping Someone Who May Be Suicidal
Solutions Issue 19

Are you taking care of your WHOLE self?
Solutions Issue 25

Solutions Issue 28

Feeling Better: Identifying and Treating your Depression
Solutions Issue 40

Making Your Medical Wishes Known
Solutions Issue 45

Personal Growth

Coping with Grief and Loss
Solutions Issue14

Personal Financial Management
Solutions Issue 16

Road Rage
Solutions Issue 17

Celebrating the Holidays without Family Members

Solutions Issue 34


Managing a Financial Crisis
Solutions Issue 47

Personal Financial Management in Times of Uncertainty
Solutions Issue 53

Living Wisely Through Challenging Economic Times
Solutions Issue 55


Personal Financial Management
Solutions Issue 16

Dealing with Job Stress
Solutions Issue

Negativity in the Workplace
Solutions Issue 32

Solving the Organizational Morale Issue
Solutions Issue 33

Harrassment in the Workplace
Solutions Issue 35

Humour in the Workplace
Solutions Issue 37

Coaching in the Workplace: Learning to lead effectively
Solutions Issue 46

Respectful Relationships at Work
Solutions Issue 48

Managing Environmental Stress in the Workplace
Solutions Issue 49

Preparing for the Impact of a Pandemic on the Workplace
Solutions Issue 50

Cross Cultural Communication in the Workplace
Solutions Issue 51

Generations in the Workplace
Solutions Issue 57

Keys to Successful Leadership
Solutions Issue 62


After the Tsunami…
Solutions Issue 39


Self Assessments

The following links to self-assessment information are provided by your EAP as a general educational tool. Using them will not provide a diagnosis of a condition, and they do not replace a consultation with, or an assessment by a trained counsellor, medical doctor or psychologist.

If you feel that you are having difficulties in one of these areas, or any other concern, it is valuable to have a discussion with your doctor or a professional counsellor who can get a complete picture of the context in which your concerns are arising.

Self-assessment tools often point us in a direction we already know we need to go to get help, affirming our intuition that we have a concern worth investigating. They can also allay our fears that we have a serious condition, as many feelings we experience are a normal part of life. Where appropriate, we have provided some interactive solutions to try out in situations that are less critical.

If you have any questions, if you would like more information or if you would like to schedule an appointment with an EAP counsellor, please contact us.

 Self Assessment Tools





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